A Godly Man

In preparation for the Youth Conferences to come, I was told to prepare a breakout session on "What to Look for in a Godly Man". Honestly, this completely stressed me out. I have my own opinions based on what I know and what my experiences are. I enjoy conversations with people sharing exactly what I THINK a godly man looks like. But, this was all together different. It was not about my opinion in a conversation. It was about Scriptural based facts and truths. I love studying Scripture. However,when teaching on something, I prefer expository teaching because it is truths and applications from a particular passage. This makes it much harder because it is easy to misinterpret scripture or make scripture "fit" the point I would try to portray. Because of this I definitely do not like to teach in a topical way. So, I prayed. I asked God to give me His eyes and Help me to see what HIS definition of a Godly Man is. After reading Proverbs, Song Of Solomon, Researching Godly Men throughout the Bible, looking up ever single passage that would describe a man after God's own heart (through my concordance in the back of my Bible) and finally typing them out (28 (typed) pages later), I felt content with my Biblical Research. God gave me His eyes as I soaked in the Passages and He showed me the characteristics.
Lets take a step back for a second, because God also used my parents in this preparation. You see, a few weeks prior, I was talking with my Dad and He said that a godly man will first "Love the Lord with all His Heart Mind and Soul above all Else" and Second "He will love his neighbor above himself". Then a couple days prior to putting the teaching together, my mother said, "Oh you should put the characteristics of a Godly man to His Physical Body for an illustration." I was excited about the illustration thought because visuals are always easier for me to remember.
So, after God gave me a clear understanding of a godly man, I summarized the points through the verses into four pages.


I had fun with teaching the Sessions. For an introduction I had all the gals close there eyes (see picture above) and picture the most handsome man in the world. Then they were to place that very man at a distance. As they approached closer to the man they saw him yelling at a dear lady, smack her across the face and run off angrily. The girls then pictured themselves running up to the lady-to find out that she was this man's mother and he got angry with her because she would not give him what he wanted...When the gals opened their eyes I asked how many of them thought that this man was still the most handsome man in the world. Then followed that with the lady who has been married to her husband for many years and each day he becomes more and more handsome; each day she falls more and more in love with him; each day-He is putting God first. So together I took them through what it means to be a Godly man...
Here are the Points:
I. "Love the Lord your God with All your Heart, Mind, and Soul" (this is the greatest commandment of all) --eyes fixed on Jesus--towards heaven--as Paul described this person is running a race--not aimlessly but with diligence, training, and discipline---towards the goal.
1. Eyes-Studying Scripture:Daily time with God by reading/studying the Bible
2. Knees-Praying: for What? When? How?
3. Ears-Listening to God: Like sheep with their Shepherd-following his guidance, when he hears God, he is like Samuel saying"Yes Lord, I'm Listening"
4. Nose-Purity of the Heart: Desiring God's Will. God reveals a mans motives-like when one breaths out through their nose-the good/bad air is revealed.
5. Obedience (with stars on the areas of the body): Our Heart (heart), Our Will (Stomach), Our Mind (brain), Our Finances/materials (belt), Our Future (beard)

Transition: A man will Clothe Himself with Christ's attributes (Col. 3:12-17)
II. Romans 13:9 “ The Commandments, ‘Do not commit adultery’, ‘Do not murder’, ‘Do not steal’, ‘Do not covet’, and whatever other commandment there may be, are all summed up in this one rule, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself’”
1. Light bulb in the brain-Wisdom/Discernment: How? By seeking God-Information-Proverbs 3-4, and 8-9.
2. Hair on Head-Fruit Produced: Fruit of the Spirit...Remaining in God.
3. Mouth-Truth: Speaks with sound doctrine according to God
4. Feet-Walking Servant Faith: "What is faith without deeds?"-putting others before himself.
5. Head-Leader: Following Christ's example as Christ is the head of the body of Christ, he is the head of his family.
6. Hands-Caregiver/Provider: evident in ministry and family
7. Whole Body radiates Christ-Righteous Living: striving to be more like Christ each day because God says "Be Holy for I am holy".

I challenged the women to run the race this man is running...because if they want this kind of man...they too must be running this same race. They too must Show these same Characteristics in their walk with God. It will be evident.
(If you are interested in receiving an e-mail with the verses and summarizations I can send them to you via e-mail).

The Sessions were fun to do and I even had some men in one of them and it was exciting to see them soak in How they can be godly men. In the pictures above you can see the poster of my "handsome man"(drawn by P'Charin-my co-worker/friend) as I was giving one of the sessions. Dave is also standing next to me translating to Thai =)

Through this preparation and presentation I feel like I learned more than the guys and gals listening. I learned what God's definition of a Godly man is and this has set my standards higher in what I want in a man before I marry him. It also showed me the woman that I am and the woman I am now striving to be as I work on listening to God (not just reading and praying =) ) and then being His hands and feet in all areas of my life. If I want a man like this man...I better be being this kind of woman, right ;-)